Jem Ayres is a Somatic Sex Educator, Orgasmic Embodiment Coach.

With a rich background of Tantra and a certificate in Sexological Bodywork, Jem offers Bodywork sessions and Online Coaching to individuals and couples who wish to stoke their inner-fire. That fire is healing, it’s pleasure, it’s self-acceptance, it’s motivation, it’s deep self-love, it’s creativity, its rebirthing and it’s connection with yourself and what you put out into the world. 


See below for Jems offerings:

  • Online Pleasure Coaching

Suitable for individuals and couples

  • Online Sex Coaching Group sessions

Every 2 weeks, ran on a donation basis

  • Private Online Coaching sessions

£100 off block of 5 during the lockdown.  Ideal for both individuals and couples

  • Couples Online Sex Coaching

Lockdown is the perfect time to deepening intimacy within your partnership, with support.

  • One2one Bodywork Sessions

Pay your deposit in advance for your post-lockdown discounted priority booking.



“I felt totally comfortable and safe with Jem to open up and address long-hidden intimacy and sexuality-related issues.

When you meet her, it is clear that she intimately embodies self-love, kindness and healthy sexuality, and this is deeply transformative in itself, to be around someone who has intimate experience with this work herself.”



Online Pleasure Coaching:

During lockdown the importance of connection is even more import, and whilst we have more time on our hands and more privacy, this could be a perfect time to step into your own personal journey of sexual self-development.

Whether it’s expanding a greater capacity for pleasure all-round, having more presence with your partner, working through sexual challenges or learning a greater range of touch techniques to use on yourself and you partner, my private online coaching sessions will be tailored to you and offer you guidance and support to working towards your intentions.

Suitable for both individuals and couples.

Whether you’re single, solo, in a relationship, satisfied with your sex life or not there is always more we learn about our bodies.

We often association masturbation with being single, or teenagers, or being desperate….but loving and mindful self-touch is so important to our mental, physical and erotic health. Even more so in this time of social distancing.

Connecting intimately with yourself can nourish your soul and helps you connect with others in a healthier way also. It’s about growth, healing, intimacy….AND pleasure!


“Jem’s gentle yet strong presence in the whole process supporting you and helping you to stay focused as well as having some fun is really inspiring. I am on my second set of coaching sessions and have met with pleasure and my resistance to pleasure as well as had some beautiful orgasmic lovemaking with my partner that set our relationship sexually on a new level. It takes courage, self-discipline and self-motivation to stay with the process and I won’t say I have it all the time but I also am more aware of my limitations which makes them easier to shift. Jem is wonderfully supportive with a no-nonsense groundedness which I really like with a wealth of knowledge about different techniques and processes. I can highly recommend her sessions to anyone, single or in relationship.”



For most of us the way we touch our bodies for pleasure is a habitual pattern we learnt from our younger years….which often hasn’t really evolved as we’ve grown, and often no longer suits our needs.

What I hear from people:

My orgasms have become less intense over the years

I can’t orgasm with my partner, only on my own.

I can only orgasm through one type of touch

I depend on porn/toys / a partner to get aroused

I no longer orgasm

I’m numb inside

I can’t feel pleasure in soft cock

My bits get sore

I feel a lot of shame around my body and expressing myself


The one that always gets me:

I know there is more pleasure to be had, but I don’t know how to get it.


So let’s look at the huge expansive pleasure that we could find in our bodies, as our old habits of ‘getting off’ often just limit us, however nice they are. Let’s open up to more choice in our bodies, our pleasure and our eroticism.


Let’s remove the pressure of having to ‘get it right’ or achieve orgasm. This for me is the best way to experience our full range of orgasmic potential.

We learn about the pleasure scale and working with relaxed arousal. We learn about finding the pleasure in our fingertips. We learn about using our whole body as an erogenous zone. We speak about different orgasms, and what can hold us back from achieving arousal.



“Jem is a total natural at this, she has bucket loads of knowledge on the subject of sexual energy and self-pleasure beyond what you can learn in a book. Jem embodies her work. Nothing seems to phase her when discussing what was possible for my pleasure practice. I’m inspired by her coaching to integrate it into my life more, I feel like I’ve scratched the surface of what is possible and look forward to exploring more. Meeting myself and my body with fresh eyes each day, to enhance my pleasure and connection with life”



If there’s something here that rings a bell for you then do get in touch. All discussions confidential:


During Lockdown I’m offering a £100 discount on my usual block of 5 online sessions.

Grab me whilst you can as this of window time is limited and my sessions are popular, so do take the opportunity to try something new and dare yourself to expand your pleasure.

No – I don’t watch you wank via Skype.

These are 1-hour sessions where we talk about your habits and pleasure patterns and identify where you could learn more.  I guide you through somatic experiences to drop you into a deeper awareness of sensation throughout the whole body, teach you touch techniques and set you homework to do during the week.



Online Sex Coaching Groups:

Offered on a pay-what-you-can-afford basis


What better way to spend your self-isolation lockdown?

Developing your sexual self-development practice with online group support from Sexological Bodyworkers, Tantra Practitioners and Sex Coaches Jem & Hugs.


Women’s Circle:  Tuesdays

Men’s Circle:  Wednesdays

Mixed Group Circle: Tuesdays

Couples Workshop: Fridays

These run every two weeks.


During these online sessions we will be offering:

  • Suggestions for self-pleasure practice
    • Touch techniques for both self-pleasure and partner pleasure
    • Setting homework for your personal sexual self-development

Topics and discussions can include:

  • How you can expand your orgasmic choice, potential & range
    • How your arousal rhythms affect your interactions and capacity for pleasure
    • Relaxation versus performance
    • Sex beyond the genitals
    • Full body orgasm and expanded bliss states
    • How you can live from a place of orgasmic potential
    • Difference between sex for mating and sex for bonding
    • How to have more presence with ourselves and our partner
    • How our nervous system affects our arousal response

For more details email:


Sex coaching for couples:

I work honouring couples of any gender and sexual orientation.

Whether you’ve lost your spark over time, your physical responses to each other have changed from when you first met, or you wish to take your connection to a deeper level, my couples sex coaching can be tailored to your needs and boundaries.  Creating space and time to be with our beloved intimately is vital to any relationship, but this precious time can get easily sacrificed when we get busy with work, children, life, or just grow too relaxed in each other’s company, especially in longer-term partnerships.

I hold a space where couples can invest in their relationship by exploring new gateways into intimacy, and find different opportunities for discovering pleasure with each other. These are valuable exercises, tools and techniques you will also be able to take home to practice and play.

I wish to assist you in reigniting desire for your beloved through exploring new territory, which allows you to see your lover through fresh eyes.  We can reframe the traditional role of penetration in sex and become aware of our response to our own or our lover’s genitals.

Offering a chance to rediscover and relearn your authentic pleasures together, which can lead us together to expand into true bliss. A safe playful space of non-judgment, able to voice your needs and desires to each other, without blame or shame, and finding a fresh way to connect.


I offer both online and in-person couples coaching and bodywork sessions, either just myself or alongside my female partner and fellow bodyworker Jem.  You can then choose how your sessions look.  This could be a process as a couple being guided through together, or alternatively, it can be a mix of one2one coaching for each of you with myself and my partner and then coming back together for sessions to expand on your individual learning.


About Jem & Hugs couples work:

Sex Coach & Tantra Practitioner Jem works alongside Sexual Pleasure Practitioner, Hugs offering couples coaching. Both Sexological Bodyworkers their knowledge is rooted in science but their Tantra training has given them a passion to share sacred sexuality work for healing, growth, intimacy and greater pleasure in all aspects of life.



One2one Bodywork and Online Coaching sessions:

During these sessions, we can work through the body for

  • Growth
  • Healing
  • Intimacy
  • Pleasure


Who can benefit from Somatic Bodywork and Online Coaching practice?

Anyone who identifies with the following:

  • Individuals who wish to find new pathways to pleasure
  • Couples who wish to connect more deeply, learning alternative ways of being sexual and sensual together.
  • Anxiety around intimacy
  • Negative body image
  • Disconnection from the body, too ‘in the head’ which blocks pleasure
  • Low libido/lack of interest o desire in sex
  • Choice around Orgasm – what holds you back?
  • Performance anxiety, erection or ejaculation dissatisfaction.
  • Genital pain, numbness or tension
  • Pelvic or genital scarring from surgery and / or childbirth

How it works:

Sexological bodywork is a co-created session between myself and you.

After enquiry, I would send you a confidential intake form for you to fill out and send back.  The information on this form will help me tailor your Bodywork and Coaching session for you, and I would talk you through this in advance so as you can make changes and know what to expect.

The session can include coaching, breathwork, massage, consensual touch and other somatic exercises to explore what comes up within you.

You’ll be set homework to do in between sessions, as your development is very much in your hands.

Whether its understanding yourself, your body and your arousal more, wanting to deepen your connection with your partner or learn some self-touch Orgasmic Yoga techniques for more mindful masturbation, get in touch to see if what Jem has to offer could fit what you need.

Freephone call consultations must be booked in advance via email:



  • During the lockdown, my online groups are run on a -pay-what-you-can-afford basis.
  • My online one2one sessions are £100 off for a block of 5 sessions.
  • Pay your deposit in advance for your post-lockdown bodywork session for a discounted priority booking post-lockdown.
  • Contact Jem to discuss individual prices for your needs.


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